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Good Stories Gone Badby Vince PoscenteAuthor of The Ant and the Elephant, Invinceable Principles and The Age of Speed
Or, how about this true story? When Thomas was working to provide for his family, his wife had an affair the whole three years they were married. When they divorced she dropped the boyfriend too. You know Leann, right? Her business partner stole millions. Single handedly he made her bankrupt then turned around and sued her for a list of indefensible claims. Penniless and alone she moved to a different country to simply start over. Now imagine each of these stories told by the victim. Sparing you details of these true stories you can easily picture the pain and suffering Angie, Thomas and Leann went through. Hearing each story you'd immediately be transfixed by the atrocity of the villain. But I have important questions for you! Are you the one telling a story of what went wrong? Is it a juicy story that has your listener ooh and aah with empathy? Is it a story that churns your insides every time you tell it? Is it a story that you've told dozens if not hundreds of times? Is it such a powerful story that others tell it too? Most importantly, are you ready to move on? There are three roles in a good story gone bad: the victim, the rescuer and the villain. Which one are you? If you're the villain, you're basically screwed. All you can do is apologize, let go of being right, live by the golden rule and hope that the victim and rescuer take to heart the advice below. If you're the victim, you are going to lose until you stop telling the story. Based on research by Dr. Lee Pulos, in one second of time, your conscious mind processes with 2,000 neurons. In that same second the subconscious mind utilizes 4 billion neurons. Emotions and peptides are inextricably connected. Negative emotions retold are relived. Every second the story unfolds 4 billion neurons and trillion of cells are wired as if it's happening all over again. Retell the story and you secure negativity in the peptides of cellular circuitry. Stop telling the story! Move on and you begin to rewire your brain. If you're the rescuer (listener of the story) you have THE most important job. Let the victim know what damage the story is doing. Stop enabling the story to be told one more time. The fastest way for the storyteller to discontinue being a victim and recover is for them to tell a new story. Simply put, a new story of hope, optimism and positive momentum should take its place. I know it's a good story but it's time for it to end. Everyone involved will be chained down until it stops being told. Until next week it's full speed ahead,
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Did you hear about Angie? Her husband was dying after an accident and the in-laws didn't call her from the hospital. She and her kids didn't learn about the climbing accident until the next day. They weren't with him in his last moments.