Without experience, how will you have confidence? Without confidence, how can you expect great results?
Adapt the old-school flashcard technique in the safety of your mind. Use Stressful Scenario Flashcards to ‘experience solutions’ to nerve-racking situations. Rotate flashcard scenarios until you instinctively have more confidence.
More confidence means better performance. Better performance translates into optimum results.💡
🐘Your elephantine subconscious mind doesn’t differentiate the difference between imagined or real experiences.
🐜 Your ant-like conscious mind might know you only visualized a certain situation, but your elephant-sized subconscious believes it happened.
🤬 Example: Think of a time when some guy said something nasty to you. He only said it once but you repeatedly reimagined the experience. You even fantasize what you should have said in reply.
😤 It only, happened once. But you experienced it multiple times. Therefore, small setbacks seem bigger than they are. Your active subconscious believed it happened recurrently. Use this experiential phenomenon to your advantage.
Stressful Scenario Flashcards are a Tool to Build Confidence.
Here are important insights for Stressful Scenario Flashcards:
1️⃣ ‘Experientialize’ how well you’d handle a bad situation.
2️⃣ Your “stressful situation” doesn’t have to be realistic.
3️⃣ Your imaginative solution doesn’t have to be realistic. Use all 5-senses. Imagine expertly handling a stressful situation.
4️⃣ Create dozens of stress-inducing scenarios. Write each one on a flashcard. Don’t write solutions. Use your fertile imagination to conjure real time solutions.
5️⃣ Every day, run through an imagined, stress-free solution.
6️⃣ ‘Experientialize’ multiple scenarios each day.
7️⃣ At the end of each imagined experience, lock in on the feeling of confident satisfaction.
Over time you’ll have more confidence and optimum results.
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Without experience, how will you have confidence? Without confidence, how can you expect great results?
Twelve breakthrough choices that will lead to 💯 freedom.
💡We’re each susceptible to what we take in. Be the architect of your thoughts as you stay in ‘choice mode.’ Here are 12 Breakthrough Choices.
1️⃣ When someone judges you, they’re telling you about them — not you.
2️⃣ When someone judges a situation, they’re telling you about their truth.
3️⃣ When someone expresses what they fear, they’re admitting what’s possible in their future.
4️⃣ When someone expresses what angers them, they’re triggered by what they see in themselves.
5️⃣ You don’t have to own a version of truth voiced by someone you admire.
6️⃣ You don’t have to own a perspective of reality from someone influential.
7️⃣ You don’t have to embrace someone else’s repetitive messages.
8️⃣ You don’t have to be polarized by your own narrative.
9️⃣ How you step back from a situation will reveal how to step into understanding.
🔟 How you make active listening a priority will develop next-level relationships.
11. How you choose to run toward, or from, fear will expose the size of that fear.
12. How you prioritize awareness over snap judgement will define your life.
Dear reader, be the architect of your mindset with each deliberate choice you make.
Which breakthrough listed above speaks to you?
Which person in your life would be open to these breakthroughs?
#mindset #freedom #ease #lifehack
“How did you get the Dalai Lama to endorse your book?” I Met a Monk, Who Knew a Monk, Who Knew a Monk.
The detailed answer is more about how you may find the perfect person who’ll help your cause.
Are you looking for a better job? The best architect? A Whale Client? The Dalai Lama to endorse your book? Don’t stop at one connection. Put yourself in a position until there’s a metaphorical monk, who knows a monk, who knows a monk.
In 2019 I organized an expedition to the Himalayas. A tendon in my ankle snapped just a few days before the trailhead. It was tough to see the team and my daughter Alex leave without me.
“What happens now?” I wondered.
Ankit Sood (destination host and friend) decided we would tour through Northern India. En route to some fascinating locations, we ran into a friend of Ankit. Raj was part of the security detail for The Dalai Lama.
“Would you like to meet the Dalai Lama when you’re in Dharamsala?” Raj asked.
While his offer never came to pass, I had met a monk, named Tenni.
Tenni tracked down Monk #2, the secretary of His Holiness. He knew Monk #3, the US point person for The Dalai Lama.
Meanwhile, after I returned to the US, Ankit took my spot in meeting the Dalai Lama with a draft of The Earthquake in hand.
Over time Monk #3 made it clear the Dalai Lama’s quote
“Life has its ups and downs; however, we should never give up hope… The Earthquake will inspire many to meet the difficult challenges of life,”
was not an endorsement, “It’s a blurb.”
Getting the blurb is that easy. Organize a trip to India. Change your plans. Meet Ankit’s friend Raj. Befriend Tenni. Find, two more monks, ship books, send 48 emails, and there you have it. A Dalai Lama blurb on the cover of your book.
*Team: Lindsey Max M. Patrick Capetillo Sydney Ace Kirina Mike Alex and Chris
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You may think you're the exception. BUT... everyone has Blind Spot Bias.
We each have a tendency to see other people being more biased than we are. In fact, in one study - over 85% of Americans reported they are less biased in their thinking.
People are motivated to see themselves in a positive light while biases are generally seen as undesirable.
Everyone has unconscious patterns and personal ‘factory defects’ if you will. There are things about each of us, we don’t know we have.
Let’s say elbow skin for example.
Roll your sleeve up and give your elbow skin a pinch. There, see that, you have no feeling in your elbow skin. A factory defect you weren’t likely aware of.
Another 'factory defect'... you have a Blind Spot.
Take this quick test. Cover your left eye. Keep your right eye on the + sign while you slowly bring your face closer to the screen. At some point the black spot will disappear then reappear. THAT is your blind spot.
When it comes to topics you’re passionate about, you also have a combination of blind spots. Blind Spot biases are enhanced by confirmation bias and repetition bias. You recognize data as aligning with your way of seeing the world, and bingo you have reinforced or confirmed your bias. Or, you hear a certain bit of information repeatedly and you are in the sights of repetition bias.
If you hold your gaze from a fixed position, there is nothing you can do about your optical bias. It is by seeing something from a different angle or position will you then see what you couldn’t see before. The same can be said in life.
If you are posting your bias on social media or arguing your point with a significant other, know, you may have an unconscious bias, A BLIND SPOT that’s a factory defect somewhat like the unfeeling elbow skin of objectivity.
For leaders and sales folks who are driving forward without an awareness of your blind spot biases... give us a call. The value of an outside perspective can be priceless.
Aspirational vision needs a kinetic nudge from intolerable exasperation. In other words, we’re motivated by discomfort over ambition. What follows is magic.
For 22 years, tucked in the corner of our property, a dilapidated greenhouse waited to be restored.
Trivia: We live where Steve Miller grew up. The land’s musical past included Dr. George Miller’s fatherly green thumb. It once bloomed with geraniums and begonias. For 60 years, 🎶 time kept on slipping, slipping, slipping into 🎶 a rundown eyesore.
Why did it years to begin repair? A combination of exasperation and aspiration was needed.
Some will quote Walt Disney, “If you can dream it, you can do it.” What if the “dream” is overwhelming? What if there are other “To Do’s” that are less daunting? Then, as our human condition is wont to do, “Not Now” rules over months and years.
Far-away goals are realized when we combine a well-defined feeling of discomfort with compelling ambition. The discomfort was A Broken Glass Monstrosity. The aspirational objective was A Sustainability Redo (prioritizing salvaged materials).
- Months of cleanout. Stuff had to go somewhere
- A reclaimed shed – disassembled, moved, and rebuilt
- White Rock Tree Wizards removed a 40’ dying tree hanging over the greenhouse
- Replace the roof (a tall order given a sustainability project)
- Covered a 1,000 sqft cracked-concrete floor with 2,500 bricks sourced from the Nextdoor app
- Resurfaced a double door plus a chandelier from ReStore
- Piles of nail-filled wood from a White Rock Boat Club renovation
- Flagstone and 5” posts from local demolitions
- Timeworn, corrugated tin from farmers
- Cedar fence slats repurposed for stub walls
- Make three 26" citrus tree planter cubes and planter boxes made out of leftover salvaged wood
- Soil from compost.
It all took relentless effort.
Help from family and friends appeared when most needed. Today it’s a vegetable-producing gem plus a work in progress. It’s a reminder of frustration and ambition intersecting.
Magic happens when we combine exasperation with aspiration.
PS Glass Doctor Dallas, expect a call.
#projects #greenhouse #frustration #ambition #setbacktobreakthrough
Chaos can make it feel like we’re losing control. Lean too far into the chaos - turmoil wins. Lean away - it feels like flailing. Here’s where staying over your skis will help you win personally and professionally.
This is what we can learn from actual skiing. First, understand that you must remain perpendicular to the contour of the terrain. When you're standing, you're neither leaning forward nor backward. You are perpendicular to the land. As a rule, you won't fall. If you lean too far forward, you'll tumble. If you lean back too far, you'll fall as well.
When you learn to ski. It is one of the first things you’re taught. Stay perpendicular to the slope. The steeper the slope gets. The rule stays the same. Stay perpendicular to the slope. But that's not our instinct, is it? If the slope starts to get too steep. We lean back because we're a little nervous about falling into the imaginary abyss. Just the sight of that ski resort a mile down the mountain and the imagination runs wild. “Don’t fall. Don’t fall. Don’t fall,” and the brain tells the body, “Lean away from that danger.” Then, you fall.
On an increasingly steeper decline, it's against human instinct to lean over your skis. Today’s popular, if not overused aphorism is, “Stay over your skis.” We hear it regarding our personal or professional lives. Extend yourself too much and that’s literally like leaning too far forward over your skis.
· Saying “yes” to everything.
· Volunteering too much of your time.
· Trying to do everything for your kids, family, coworkers, clients, prospects, and complainers.
Boom. Chaos wins and you don’t.
What about sitting back? Again, we will have issues.
· Sit back and wait for progress to just appear. Boom.
· Lean away from the fear. It gets bigger.
· Retreat from the chaos, it rages even stronger.
· Lean too far back and we're ultimately in for a rocky ride.
There is that sweet spot, that zone of control, even if it is Controlled Chaos.
Stay over those skis. Stay perpendicular to the slope and it’s going to serve you well. If things seem to be a little bit too chaotic, check in with where you spend your time and focus.
Are you leaning too far forward or back?
If so, then find that sweet spot dynamic and enjoy the ride.
#chaos #TheEarthquake #overwhelmed #overcomeobstacles #setbacktobreakthrough
A group of metaphorical creatures presents lessons about perseverance and mental strength in this guide.
In this follow-up to The Ant and the Elephant (2004), Poscente returns to the two animals who are his stand-ins for the conscious (ant) and subconscious (elephant) minds. Adir the Ant and Elgo the Elephant go everywhere together. Adir has learned how to make sure he and Elgo are working toward the same purpose in pursuit of excellence. Their idyllic existence is interrupted by an earthquake that destroys their home—and Adir’s extensive and highly leveraged real estate enterprise—and the two fall into despondency.
After trying to rebuild as all their animal neighbors leave the area, Adir and Elgo eventually set out on a quest for a safe place to serve as a new home. With periodic advice from Brio the Owl, Adir and Elgo set goals for themselves, find a path through unfamiliar territory, and learn new ways to work together. They also face external challenges: Villains Chromia the Wolf and Valafar the Vulture see Adir and Elgo as potential prey. When Adir and Elgo’s conflicts aren’t driving them further from their goals, the predators are.
By implementing Brio’s lessons (“Adir, criticism is like manure. It stinks but helps you grow”), Adir and Elgo are eventually able to triumph. In the introduction, Poscente writes that the book was inspired by his “own personal earthquake,” a confluence of bad financial decisions coupled with the falloff of his public speaking business during the recession of the late 2000s, which forced him to learn the lessons Adir and Elgo discover in the story.
While the talking animal storyline may not appeal to all readers, it follows the successful path of earlier titles like Spencer Johnson’s Who Moved My Cheese? (1998) and Holden Rothgeber and John Kotter’s Our Iceberg Is Melting (2006) and does so equally well. Each chapter ends with a restatement of the pithy lessons taught by the tale, presented as an entry in Adir’s collection of notes to himself. The volume’s insights will be familiar to pop-psychology veterans, but the format is a smooth and persuasive way of concisely presenting them to new audiences.
Pub Date: Nov. 30, 2021
Page Count: 224
Publisher: Matt Holt
Review Posted Online: Oct. 15, 2021
Review Program: KIRKUS INDIE
There are times when values get tested (or ignored) by personal earthquakes. In particular, the pursuit of excellence can impinge when a massive or painful setback is front-of-mind.
We are all led by certain values that are inherently a filter for how we each interpret our world. Organizations have values that help them and the world they interact with interpret their position and how people see them.
The International Olympic Committee has three guiding values of Olympism. Excellence - Friendship - Respect. “They constitute the foundation on which the Olympic Movement builds its activities to promote sport, culture, and education with a view to building a better world.”
As an Olympian in the crosshairs of a financial setback around 2008, my deeply held value of “The Pursuit of Excellence” took a back seat to basic survival. (Yeah, Maslow, I get it.) This experience led me to write The Earthquake as a formula for getting back to ‘thrival’ over survival. The three things we can each do when enmeshed in a personal or interpersonal setback is:
- Give Yourself a Break
- Give Others a Break
- Give it Time
As you may know, the opening line in the book, The Earthquake is, “There’s no linear way out of chaos.” Given that fact, a path of self-discovery awaits.
Read the book.
You’ve got this.
#wegotthis #TheEarthquake #mindset #setbacks #breakthroughs
Vince Poscente is one of the most in-demand motivational keynote and virtual presenters on the planet. His expertise in resiliency and how to overcome obstacles thrills audiences worldwide. When you bounce back stronger than ever confidence and fun goes up. Vince's client list includes world-class organizations dedicated to being bigger and better. When employees and entrepreneurs handle setbacks, supersede obstacles, and are more focused - record-setting results happen faster than expected. Vince knows first-hand how innovation, persistence fearlessness plays in your future success. He speaks from experience. His foundation is with proven tools. Where does Vince Poscente's “From Setback to Breakthrough” expertise come from?
- Recreational skier, Vince to Olympic athlete in just four short years.
- Award-winning sales and marketing executive with the world's largest real estate investment service.
- Earned a Masters in Organizational Management while being an award-winning business owner.
- One of only four people on the planet to be inducted into the USA and Canadian Speaker Halls of Fame.
- New York Times bestselling author of eight books.
- Leader and participant on seven Himalayan Expeditions
What are your teams’ challenges? An uncertain economy? Negative attitudes? Competition? Lower productivity?
Vince is the #1 go-to guy for taking a team and teaching them how to sell more, lead better, and produce more. Vince will help you move past obstacles and create the success you, and your team, want and deserve.
Vince Poscente has practical tools to change how your team handles crisis. Problems. Competition. And change. Without understanding resiliency and the absolute importance it plays on everything and everyone—your team will not have the skills they need to overcome the things that will inevitably stand in their way. #mindset #setbacks #breakthroughs
There's a universal misunderstanding regarding better results in our personal or professional lives. Ask anyone how to get better results and the answer is pretty consistent. "To change your results, change your actions. For different results, do different actions. For better results, engage in better actions." Seems like great advice... if it was accurate. Dear reader, starting with your actions for better results, only leads to more struggle and frustration. There is a better way.
Then, some well-meaning, self-anointed, TikTok guru comes along and gives the sage advice they saw in a Nike commercial, "Just Do It."
If you're into 'splitting hairs' (a term from the middle ages as it was thought a hair was too fine to cut in half, ergo, futile) then you might argue that action is better than doing nothing. True. BUT WE'RE NOT DONE YET.
Back to the dynamic of fear, confidence, action, and results. Review this graph to see if you non-hair-splitters agree.
High fear leads to low confidence, which leads to poor performance, which leads to poor results. Or conversely, low confidence leads to high fear, leading to poor performance and poor results. Backing up from simply, "just do it" you can see a dynamic between fear and confidence as the source of better outcomes.
Let's Take a Closer Look at Fear and Confidence
Fear comes from the unknown.
Confidence comes from experience.
Consider the term, an unknown experience and you have the makings for poor results. Hence, fear and confidence are a precursor to the results you are experiencing. Here's where it gets goofy.
What if you don't have experience with:
- working in a post-pandemic setting
- a new job
- reinventing yourself
- some sort of loss
- a new relationship
- a failed relationship
- a financial setback
- a wackadoodle coworker-boss-subordinate-customer-client-relative-neighbor
Without previous experience with any version of the above list, how can you expect to have confidence? Now, what happens? Your confidence is compromised. What happens when confidence is low. Fear goes up. What happens when fear is high and confidence is low? Your actions and how you perform are diminished. Then results are poor. It seems like a no-win situation. (Cue calvary trumpet.)
Make it Laughable
There is a solution but the optics have gone from 'goofy' to 'laughable' (double entendre intended)
By introducing "fun" to the equation, you will have a shortcut to flipping the gap between fear and confidence.
Simply making the decision to Have Fun before you engage in something new or different will automatically improve confidence and throw shade on those fears. All of a sudden, your performance is improved (despite your lack of experience and the fact that fun is the opposite end of the universe from fear) and your results are optimized.
This is where the aforementioned hair-splitters can pipe in. Now just do it again, and again, and again. Always start with the decision to have fun and your brain will override the goofy fear/confidence dynamic.
A Laugh-Worthy Story About Having Fun
Scan ahead in this video to 4:38 and you'll see a one-minute story about having fun as a way to accelerate better results.
Take care and enjoy the journey. It's all about having fun.
For most athletes retiring and their Olympic sport, these next few months can be a time of feeling lost and alone. Until the closing ceremonies in Tokyo, medalists and qualifiers previously knew what their job was. Now - "What's my purpose?" bounces around in their brain (and body) like a balloon on a windy day.
From personal experience, my post-Olympic experience was a long, insidious slide into feeling lost. Heck, it was only this year, I finally wrote a book to summarize that feeling. While the rest of us carry on with our lives, retiring athletes generally feel some form of being untethered.
In addition, the I.O.C. just upgraded their motto to “Swifter, Higher, Stronger - Together." Ah yes, together. Does this ring true for you too?
Athletes either have individual pursuits (skiing, gymnastics, pole vault, wrestling) or team pursuits (hockey, water polo, volleyball). In both cases, you're still one athlete trying to get better in your sport. But, when the lady of a larger persuasion sings, there's not team, no organization, no nothing. It's a void of "meh."
If you know an athlete who competed in the Olympics, or a newly minted army veteran, or a person who retired from their job, reach out and check in with them. Include them in your plans. Co-create a project. Find out what the athlete's passion is and introduce them to that special someone in your network who shares the same values.
Let's remember the pursuit of swifter, higher, stronger excellence is best achieved together!