How will I serve with love?
This question is pervasive 365 days a year. It’s a question that I live by. It’s a question instead of a statement. It is the direction on my compass that I keep checking in with.
It’s my question. It may not be your ideal question. Therefore:
What intrinsic question resonates with how you wish to live your life?
Years ago I took a course put on by Context Associated. They delivered a profound set of self-development courses where one realization led to the next.
The first course I took was called The Pursuit of Excellence. The salesperson, now a friend, pitched it when I was preparing to go to compete in the Olympic Winter Games. Silently I wondered, “What do I need to learn about excellence when I’m already going to the Olympics?” (It turns out I had a mountain of self-discovery to experience.)
The subsequent courses revealed more and more about how I could live fully.
The value of taking a course with other people is you can hear their journey and learn from external insights. It was the single most important thing I did in my life (at a time when my first marriage was in shambles). That marriage ended but the growth continued.
By the final course, I learned a bunch of ways to thrive. The most valuable takeaway was how to live IN my question.
What is your question? What has no answer beyond what is answerable (dare I say “livable”) right now?
Living in this moment ➡️ living in your question ➡️ may be the path to inner peace.
How will I serve with love?
Also...we humans don’t make sense sometimes. We think the best time to make a rational decision is when we’re comfortable. But we are frequently inclined to pivot when we are emotional, uncomfortable, or both. What’s up with that?
If I had a soap box it would be placed in the middle of “Safety Square.” The world of corporate safety is a fascinating reflection of the human condition. When things are good, and no one is getting hurt, the safety initiatives are generally on autopilot. But the second an incident occurs a call for improvement is enforced. When people get hurt or killed, a commitment to change has the full attention of everyone.
Regarding commitment, whether it is safety at work, home, play, or in relationships, the secret lies in seeking discomfort.
No one likes to seek uncomfortable feelings - but that is where change is inspired.
Recall the yin and yang symbol. Rational decisions mix with emotional decisions. Get too emotional and logic fades away. Stick to pure logic and decisions have no urgency.
Paradoxically, get too comfortable and urgency is elusive. Get too uncomfortable and decisions become desperate.
John F. Kennedy said, “The time to fix the roof is when the sun is shining.” Do we do this? Of course not. We wait until it rains while a leak causes more damage than was necessary.
We, humans, could make better decisions.
We could embrace the optimum zone in The Commitment Paradox.
But that makes too much sense.